THE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING

 

THE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING

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WHAT IS A POSITIVE THINKING

Positive thinking just means that you approach unpleasantness in a more positive and productive way. You think the best is going to happen, not the worst. Positive thinking often starts with self-talk. Self-talk is the endless stream of unspoken thoughts that run through your head.

 

TYPES OF  POSITIVE THINKING

There are two types of positive thinking.  You can be optimistic about what you think, or you can be positive in how you think.  One is useful and the other is dangerous.  Unfortunately, the difference between the two is often subtle, and I rarely see anyone addressing this issue directly.

 

1). Optimism – Dangerous Positive Thinking

Optimism is believing things will turn out well, even when the evidence argues the opposite.  The problem with this kind of positive thinking is that it moves you away from the truth.  Whenever you move away from the truth of your situation, you’ll make poor decisions and get lousy results.

Consider the following cases of dangerous optimism:

§  Continuing to smoke, because you don’t believe you’ll get lung cancer.

§  Staying in a broken relationship because you believe it will magically improve.

§  Working a dead-end job because you’re betting on an unlikely promotion.

§  Not saving for your retirement because you believe you’ll win the lottery.

It’s obvious that, in these cases, believing good things will happen is going to keep you from making improvements in your life.  Unfounded optimism is dangerous.

Despite these examples, many people (and many authors) have argued that there are benefits to deceive yourself into believing unlikely, good things will happen.  This has created a lot of the confusion towards positive thinking and, in my opinion, much of the cynicism towards the self-help movement.

Often stated examples are:

§  Believing in yourself when no one else does, can push you to accomplish big things.

§  Optimism can help you stay committed to a goal when there is no external reinforcement.

§  Faith in your actions can help you rebound from discouraging failures.

In these cases, I’ll agree, optimism can be helpful.  The problem is that it’s impossible to neatly separate the cases of genuinely helpful optimism from dangerous optimism.  A lie is a lie, no matter how you spin it.

A better perspective to adopt is one that stays true to your situation, but also gives you the motivation you need to work hard.  Here are a few perspectives to consider that are honest, but also encourage you to keep going:

§  It’s better to try and fail, then not to try.  Helen Keller has a great quote that frames the decision we all face perfectly, “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable.”

§  We learn from failures, not from success.  Continuing after a failure doesn’t require optimism, because every error builds on your knowledge.  Each mistake brings you closer to success.

§  The purpose of having goals is motivated action.  Setting goals isn’t about achievement, it’s about getting you to feel inspired and take action.  Even if success isn’t forthcoming, you can still work, knowing your goal has served it’s purpose.

These are just a few perspectives, but there are countless others.  The point is that you shouldn’t need to lie to yourself in order to stay motivated.  Realistically viewing the situation should push you to make the best decisions.  The reason this happens is when you cultivate the genuinely good form of positive thinking.

 

2). Positive Attitude – The Useful Positive Thinking

Optimism is thinking positive about the things that will happen.  A positive attitude, on the other hand, is about being positive in the way you think about things.  Unlike optimism, a positive attitude doesn’t invite falsehoods.  It doesn’t ask that you surrender your reasoning abilities in order to make decisions.  Because a positive attitude aligns with the truth of your reality, you can be as positive as you like without the dangers of overconfidence or arrogance.

In order to explain the difference between attitude and optimism, I’ll use an example.  Let’s say you’re unhealthy.  Although this may seem like a cold fact, there are really many ways you can represent this to yourself internally:

1.       I’m going to die.

2.       I’m an unhealthy person.

3.       I’ve got a problem with diet and exercise.

4.       I’ve got some habits that need to change.

5.       I have a challenge and an opportunity to increase the quality of my life.

 

All of these are true.  You can’t look at any one of those statements and disagree with it if you’re actually out of shape.  However, you’re brain can’t think with all of those patterns simultaneously.  You can only think one perspective at a time.  A positive attitude is about cultivating the perspectives that are the most useful for generating change.

Optimism would involve deceiving yourself about the results.  You would claim that you weren’t going to suffer because of your poor health or that you weren’t really unhealthy.  You might also believe that changing your health would be easy (and quickly give up when it gets too hard).  A positive attitude doesn’t make that error.

How to think positive thoughts

Positive thinking can be achieved through a few different techniques that have been proven effective, such as positive self-talk and positive imagery.

Here are some tips that to get you started that can help you train your brain how to think positively.

 

1.    Focus on the good things

Challenging situations and obstacles are a part of life. When you’re faced with one, focus on the good things no matter how small or seemingly insignificant they seem. If you look for it, you can always find the proverbial silver lining in every cloud — even if it’s not immediately obvious. For example, if someone cancels plans, focus on how it frees up time for you to catch up on a TV show or other activity you enjoy.

 

2.    Practice gratitude

Practicing gratitude has been shown to reduce stress, improve self-esteem, and foster resilience even in very difficult times. Think of people, moments, or things that bring you some kind of comfort or happiness and try to express your gratitude at least once a day. This can be thanking a co-worker for helping with a project, a loved one for washing the dishes, or your dog for the unconditional love they give you.

 

3.    Keep a gratitude journal

StudiesTrusted Source have found that writing down the things you’re grateful for can improve your optimism and sense of well-being. You can do this by writing in a gratitude journal every day, or jotting down a list of things you’re grateful for on days you’re having a hard time.

 

4.    Open yourself up to humor

Studies have found that laughter lowers stress, anxiety, and depression. It also improves coping skills, mood, and self-esteem.

Be open to humor in all situations, especially the difficult ones, and give yourself permission to laugh. It instantly lightens the mood and makes things seem a little less difficult. Even if you’re not feeling it; pretending or forcing yourself to laugh can improve your mood and lower stress.

 

5.    Spend time with positive people

Negativity and positivity have been shown to be contagious. Consider the people with whom you’re spending time. Have you noticed how someone in a bad mood can bring down almost everyone in a room? A positive person has the opposite effect on others.

Being around positive people has been shown to improve self-esteem and increase your chances of reaching goals. Surround yourself with people who will lift you up and help you see the bright side.

 

6.    Practice positive self-talk

We tend to be the hardest on ourselves and be our own worst critic. Over time, this can cause you to form a negative opinion of yourself that can be hard to shake. To stop this, you’ll need to be mindful of the voice in your head and respond with positive messages, also known as positive self-talk.

Research shows that even a small shift in the way you talk to yourself can influence your ability to regulate your feelings, thoughts, and behavior under stress.

Here’s an example of positive self-talk: Instead of thinking “I really messed that up,” try “I’ll try it again a different way.”

 

7.    Identify your areas of negativity

Take a good look at the different areas of your life and identify the ones in which you tend to be the most negative. Not sure? Ask a trusted friend or colleague. Chances are, they’ll be able to offer some insight. A co-worker might notice that you tend to be negative at work. Your spouse may notice that you get especially negative while driving. Tackle one area at a time.

 

8.    Start every day on a positive note

Create a ritual in which you start off each day with something uplifting and positive. Here are a few ideas:

• Tell yourself that it’s going to be a great day or any other positive affirmation.
• Listen to a happy and positive song or playlist.
• Share some positivity by giving a compliment or doing something nice for someone.

THE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING

THE POWER OF THINKING IS SEEN IN DAT TO DAY LIFE . IT CAN BE SHOW BY THE FOLLOWING OBSERVATION IN DAY TO DAY LIFE.

 

1.  EMPOWER YOURSELF

You didn’t get the promotion you worked so hard for. You’ve been let go from your job. Your partner broke up with you. You have chronic health issues that hold you back. These are all difficult situations that many of us will face at some point in our lives. The real question is: How will you react to them?

 Do you blame others when bad things happen to you? Or do you look to yourself for the solution? When you take responsibility for how you think, act and feel, you have an internal locus of control – and that’s a key trait of successful people. This type of thinking lends you a deep belief in yourself and a positive mindset that allows you to get up and start over after a failure. From there, everything else in your life can fall into place.

Remember: The only thing in life you can control is yourself. You can’t control every event – but you can control how you react to them. Once you empower yourself to change what’s in your control – you – only then are you ready for the power of positive thinking.

 

  2. TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR STATE

Have you noticed that when you’re having a bad day, your body language shows it? You slump over in your chair, you have a hard time making eye contact with others and do things like cross your arms when you’re feeling uncomfortable. You stop being mindful and allow your environment and circumstances to control you. This is not a powerful stance. Your body tells those around you that you are uneasy, angry or sad and want to be left alone. This creates a feedback loop as your poor posture reinforces your poor mindset.

Positive thinking is as much about your body as it is about your brain. Take control of your physiology by taking pride in how you present yourself. Work on your posture to give those around you nonverbal cues that you are feeling strong and positive, and are ready to listen to them. Stop nervous habits like fidgeting or twirling your hair. This technique requires you to observe yourself; as soon as you catch yourself giving in to a nervous tic or starting to slump, straighten up. As you hold your body in a power pose, a more positive mindset will naturally follow.

Those around you will pick up on the physiological signals you’re sending and will respond with positivity. The more you portray positivity and others see you this way, the easier positive thinking becomes, creating a new feedback loop. You will then be able to focus on others and do things such as asking three vital questions to find out how you can give to the world and others.

 

3. ADJUST YOUR MINDSET

Adjusting your physiology is only one part of the puzzle; it’s critical to catch the other negativity trigger in its opening stages as well. Your mindset governs what thoughts flow through your head and how you feel and react to each one. If your mindset is poor, everything around you is going to seem all the worse.

For example, you’re at the airport and are unnecessarily delayed while going through security. Then the airline attendant checking you in is rude to you. Another airline worker overhears, apologizes and bumps your ticket up to business class.

Once you’re in the air, are you fixated on the hassles you faced in the airport, or are you grateful for your spacious seat and free cocktail? Do you think of the delay as wasted time or as a way to take time and reconnect with yourself? Do you automatically revert to the power of positive thinking or do negative thoughts take over?

 

You can choose to focus on the negatives or the positives of this – and any – scenario, but if you choose to focus on what’s bothering you, it will begin to negatively impact your life. You’ll also attract more negative situations – people won’t be friendly to you when you’re scowling and hostile. You may punish your partner or others for not living up to your expectations, eroding your relationships and adding to more bitterness. You’ll forget that you can empower yourself to tackle any situation and start believing that a positive mindset is out of your reach.

Positive thinking bypasses that rage and inconvenience, allowing you to enjoy the moment and be fully present. By consciously choosing to focus on positive moments in your life, you’ll begin to reframe your thoughts, cultivating an abundance mindset that is grateful and open rather than negative and closed off.

 

4. STUDY YOUR HABITS AND FORM NEW ONES

 

You can’t form new habits and harness the power of positive thinking if you’re unaware of your current ones. Are there things that set you into a negative spiral of self-doubt? Do you react to situations openly or do you utilize defense mechanisms? If so, what are they?

Perhaps you become agitated whenever you start thinking about going after a promotion at work. Your thoughts take you to a dark place and positive thinking goes out the window. You calculate how long you’ve been with the company and start thinking about why you haven’t been promoted already. Do your bosses know something you don’t? Maybe they don’t think you’re capable of doing the job. You begin to question your skill set, and then you wonder if you’ll ever move up in your field. Maybe you’ll just quit.

Think of all the time you’re wasting by falling back on this negative habit. Self-doubt is almost always rooted in fear – often the fear of failure. Doing something and failing seems like it would be unbearable, so your mind comes up with all sorts of reasons as to why you won’t even make an effort. If you give in to these negative thoughts, you might not fail but you will stagnate, which is worse. As Tony says, “If you’re not growing, you’re dying.” If you fail, at least you can learn something. If you stagnate, you won’t. 

What if, instead of getting swept up in a pattern of negative thoughts, you refocused your energy and developed empowering habits that use positive thinking? Stop the spiral of doubt by blocking it with positive thoughts. If you’re able to cut off a negative thought pattern before it gets out of hand, you can shift to recalling positive affirmations instead. 

By training your mind to block negative thoughts with positive thinking, you’re steadily training yourself to stop thinking in a negative way. Fear won’t rule you anymore. That’s the power of positive thinking.

 

5. CHOOSE YOUR WORDS CAREFULLY

One habit that is essential to positive thinking is to transform your vocabulary. The words you choose – both in conversation and in your own mind – have a deep impact on your mindset. Studies have found that positive self-talk improves psychological states, helps people regulate their emotions and more. Your conversation affects how others respond to you, again creating a feedback loop that can be either positive or negative. 

Before you can choose different words, you need to recognize what words you’re already using. Take note of how you label and describe things in conversation, particularly your own emotions. Are you really “terrified” of that big work presentation or just a little nervous? Are you truly “angry” at your partner or mildly annoyed at one of their bad habits? When you dial back your vocabulary and use words that are less emotionally loaded, you’ll find your mindset becomes attuned to more positive thinking.

Many people find it helpful to write down negative words they find themselves using throughout the day. For every negative word, write a positive alternative next to it. Keep the alternatives in the back of your mind to use next time. Find this aspect of positive thinking overwhelming? Start with just one area of your life that causes negative thoughts, like work or your relationship status. Catch yourself in those moments, and build from there.

 

6. IDENTIFY THOSE YOU ADMIRE

Think of someone who’s had a profound impact on your life. It can be a close friend, family member or someone you’ve never met, like a celebrity, professional athlete or renowned entrepreneur. What mottos does that person live by? Have they been able to unlock extraordinary lives due to their positive thinking habits?

Chances are, they use the power of positive thinking to find the success they seek – and you can, too. When you feel yourself falling into negative habits and can’t quite seem to figure out how to think positive, pull up a quotation from someone you respect. Read it and determine how you can best embody it. You can even write it down and post it somewhere you’ll see it often, such as the refrigerator or on the side of your computer screen.

 

The person you admire doesn’t have to be famous. The story of Jay and Fariha is a real-life example of how positive thinking can be contagious to our friends and loved ones. One of the first things Fariha noticed about Jay was his positivity – the “kick in his step.” Jay was cultivating positive emotions on a daily basis thanks to Tony’s philosophies. He shared those philosophies with Fariha and both attended Unleash the Power Within, where Fariha learned vital strategies she could use to change her mindset and start living the life of her dreams. 

If you have someone you think of as a mentor, even better. Get on the phone and ask them to share some positive thoughts. Tony often quotes his own mentor, Jim Rohn, when he says, “Every day, stand guard at the door of your mind, and you alone decide what thoughts and beliefs you let into your life.” Will you give in to the temptation to think negatively and stagnate – and then blame others when you don’t reach your goals? Or will you guard your mind and only allow in positive thinking that propels you toward the life you dream of? It’s up to you.

Yes, positive thinking can change your life. Studies have found that positive thinking helps you live longer, reduces loneliness and more. But the most life-changing effect of positive thinking has to do with the law of attraction. This is the idea that what you focus on, you attract. As Tony says, “Whatever you hold in your mind on a consistent basis is exactly what you will experience in your life.” When you focus on the negative, you’ll experience more negatives. But when you focus on the positive, the whole world opens up to you.

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                                           14/oct/2022